Hello my name is Shannon and I’m a recovering perfectionist – does that sound familiar to you?
Overcoming trying to perfect was just one of the things that I focused on when trying to be the best version of myself. From my house, how people viewed me, how my hair and make-up looks, my work, to my closets being color coded. If everything wasn’t perfect I struggled – and let me tell you the struggle was real.
This can only go on for so long before it takes a toll. Because perfection always bring those unwanted guests with her: jealously, comparison, resentment, disappointment and fear. When I learned that not being “perfect” did not define me and that life doesn’t have to perfect to beautiful, it was a huge step in loving the life I’m living. What I learned was that I live in a house means we are making memories, making mistakes means that I have an opportunity to learn and grow.
By focusing on progress and not perfection it helped me to have a grateful heart, be thankful for the small things and to have a faith bigger that my fears.
8 Things to give up in pursuit of being the best version of yourself
- Perfection: Focus on the progress not being perfect. Many of us can relate to this with our body, I no longer focus on my body being perfect but love that when I stay consistent with healthy eating and exercise I can feel it when I put on my clothes and they fit differently and that my friend is progress!
- Negative thinking and self-talk: The love to conquer this with positive belief statements or affirmation cards. Statements such as I am enough, I am worthy!
- Doubting yourself: When self-doubt creeps in remind yourself of the following things: 1) Know that everything works out for your highest good! 2) Trust the progress and learn as you go! 3) Don’t be afraid of failing – once you can get clear on where the doubt is coming from you can refocus and prevail.
- Fear of failure: Fear you is fake, yes I just said that! It is something our mind tells us because it thinks that it is “keeping us safe” but what it is really doing is keeping us stuck. Ask yourself what is the worst that can happen and go for it. Sometimes when we give our mind the worst case and it sees that it isn’t so bad, it allows us to move forward!
- Procrastination: Make a list and just get started! When you have a list you know where to start and what you need to do to complete the task. Taking action always works, getting started is always the hardest part.
- Jealously and comparison: The quickest way to conquer this is being grateful for what you have. I love to write out all the things I’m thankful for. Don’t overthink this, keep it simple. For example: I am thankful for my home and all the people I share it with! I am thankful for sunny days!
- Fear of success: We all want to be successful right, of course but again the fear can be so real and keep you stuck. This topic has many layers but one of my favorite things to do it to visualize or write out what success looks like. When you can visualize it or see it, you start attracting what you really want!
- People pleasing: Setting clear boundaries and learning to say no! I love helping people but I’ve often taken on too many things at once and I had to learn to say no and set clear boundaries. This may be as simple as everyone has to put their dishes in the dishwasher because at the end of the day it allows you to have more time to do what you need to do. Or even telling your work that you can’t work additional hours even though the extra money would be nice because your time with your family is important.
Which of these things do you want to let go today? Share with me in the comments!
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